I would like to start by saying that I am far from perfect (not that far) and this is just a venue for me to let off steam. If you ever met me I am actually a very lovely person (well at least one of my personalities is very lovely!) Having said that, let's get right to it, shall we?
So I have been dating this guy for 5 months. In order to conceal his real identity I will refer to him simply as Stud. He has a 16 year old son and has joint custody of his son with his ex-wife. He has him every other week and every other weekend. I am a single mom and I have full custody of my son so I have him all of the time. We usually see each other one night through the week and one weekend night. Now mind you this is a relationship that is slow going to say the least but it is going and usually going well! I really don't want to rush into anything serious until I know I really like him (okay that's crap but I like him and he is sweet so I am not going to try to rush him!) Anyway, this weekend was his weekend without his son. Friday rolls around and he still hasn't mentioned seeing me this weekend. I figure he always makes the plans so maybe he is waiting on me so I text him and just say "So, am I going to get to see me some Stud this weekend?". He texted me back... "I am going out of town to hang out with some friends this weekend but I can see you Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday or all of the above". This is when my very lovely personality was taken over by my oh-no-you-didn't personality! Really???? Are you serious???? I don't care that he is going out of town for the weekend... I care that he didn't think about me at all to at least give me a head's up that he was going away. In my mind this is a pretty good indication that he is still in single mode. The thought of sharing his plans with me never crossed his mind which if you are in a relationship that thought should have definitely occurred!
Next the over-analyzing starts! Is he going with someone else or to meet someone else? And I really don't think that so I toss those conclusions out and just keep coming back to the same and only explanation that makes any sense to me... he is still single in his mind. Now, do I move on, do I say something, do I just pretend it is okay and act as though nothing happened to bother me? Well, I am still mulling over the answer to those questions but that is my boyfriend beef today! Part of me feels like I am being petty and the other part is screaming... MOVE ALONG... THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP HERE!!!!! What do you think???????? What would you do if you were me? Have you had any similar stories????
